Seamus Madden M.A.S.C. Posted on : 22/12/2007 01:12:47

Trust, it's a two way street.

The trouble with trust is that it isn't always easy to define, and even harder to quantify.

People who are predisposed to not trusting will always look for signs that they are right, so will eventually find what they are looking for and distrust even more, so the circle never stops. They maybe prone to guilt trips that will amplify any anxiety that they have so making them feel even more vulnerable, which is the crux for a lot of people's negative behaviours.

So how do you make people feel less vulnerable, and more in control?

The first hurdle to overcome is that they have to really want to.

The second hurdle is finding the right catalyst that will help them achieve it.

Counselling, group therapy, cognitive behavioural therapies are some possibilities a loving and understanding partner always helps but the thing that I have found with my clients is getting them to forgive themselves, even if they are not at fault, they will still carry the guilt.

Panic attacks, depression, asthma, phobias, stress related conditions are all a consequence of people wanting answers and explanations to why things happened to them which they will never get a truly satisfying answer to because the answer lies within them. Remove the guilt or at least explain it and they are a big step nearer to being happier with themselves, all they need to do is ask the right question....

What's yours?

Seamus Madden, M.A.S.C