mickeydee
Why did this happen?

OK so I was out shopping with my mum, when our old neighbour came over and started a conversation, long story short, her daughter who is my age used to be my best friend when we were like 3 to 7, then I had to move, I gave her my guitar my mum bought me when I was 5, (I always liked music and continue to play guitar) its only a little guitar, we went over to her house to visit when our mums said why don't you and (lets call her Jane to hide identities) Jane go upstairs an play the computer, so we did, we liked the same bands and stuff and the same shows and she had much the same game collection as me so we had fun, then I saw my old guitar in the corner rested against the wall, I started playing it (I was playing Ground Control to Major Tom) and she lost it, started shouting and stuff, took the guitar and I had to spend the rest of the night with the adults, why was I shouted at?

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sophiexxx
I told my friend the truth when drinking?

my friend calls me girly names and wants me to go shopping with her since she found out I wear women's clothes, I showed her my pink underwear and was telling her how comfy they were one night when I was drunk (she even asked could she take a photo) I agreed stupidly, since then, she teases me and makes comments in front of my friend, what can I do?

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My boyfriend and I are dating now for almost 3 years. I would just like to know what I can do to make my boyfriend see how manipulative his best friend and girlfriend are. I’ve always liked them, until I’ve seen their true colors. I have always been very nice towards them and try with them, for the sake of my boyfriend, but they are destroying me along the way. Let me tell you the story so that I can figure this out. I need advise ASAP please, because I am not use to people like this! In the past when my boyfriend and I had some disagreements and decided to just take a little brake to think things trough, his best friend would step in every single time. He would send me text messages like “you are the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen” and so on, while dating his girl. Obviously I’d tell my boyfriend and his girlfriend about it thinking that they will both trust that I won’t do anything as I love my boyfriend with all my heart. Lately, with things happening I’ve decided to clear my head and think things trough clearly, because somehow I am allowing them to get to me. It is destroying my relationship with the guy of my dreams. It is destroying me and I always thought I was the crazy person, until people told differently, or made me see differently. My boyfriend’s best friend was and is extremely jealous of him. Even my boyfriend’s parents can see it and warned him numerous times. How can someone be best friends with a person that’s jealous about your whole life and everything in it? His best friend is not good for him health wise and I don’t trust him. A lot of people can see it and it scares me. I don’t want my boyfriend to somehow get trapped and then we loose each other. Why is his best friend like this?? Let’s get to the worst part of all. The best friend’s girlfriend! She is not a beautiful girl and tries to get the guys attention by sharing their interests, such as cars and play station games. Every single time we would go out, all she would speak about is cars. I don’t have a clue what they are speaking about because it’s not something I am interested in, and she knows that! I have recently discovered that she makes up stories to tell my boyfriend, but little does she know my boyfriend then asks me about it, because I don’t make a big thing of it, but I am surely getting scared of the things she might be capable of doing. We are all adults, busy with studies and work. So the following is just childish of her. I would speak to a girl, she would then go to someone who I am friends with and tell them that I am gossiping about them while I am catching up with that girl. She would pick the right time to tell my boyfriend about it and add stories, like I made that girl cry because I apparently gossiped about her. Little does she know that the girl she went to asked me about it because we are close and told me that she didnt’t even cry and I told her that I didnt’t gossip about her. My boyfriend actually believed his best friends girlfriend until I showed him he conversation I had with the girl I apparently gossiped about. We would go out and she would invite all my boyfriends ex girlfriends. She would then come to me just as my boyfriend speaks to one of his ex girls, and asks me to look if I can see her boyfriend, just so that I can see my boyfriend having an innocent conversation with an ex girl from many years back. Obviously it would trigger me at that moment and I would confront my boyfriend about it, not knowing that she have put thoughts in his head already. I caught her the one night, we were all sitting there. She didnt’t see me and told my boyfriend that her boyfriend is so upset and jealous about her speaking to one of her girl friends. But actually he was upset because she went to another guy and was literally all over him as I saw it because I kept an eye on her that night. So she makes my boyfriend think that they are the innocent ones with jealous boyfriends and girlfriends and that she can’t handle it anymore. How much does she love her boyfriend if she can gossip about him to his best friend and plus of things that’s not true. What is her case with me? Does she want my boyfriend? Does she want me out of the picture because her boyfriend had such a big crush on me while dating her and now she still feels insecure about it and thinks he might still like me? Is she jealous of me just like her boyfriend is on his best friend? Or are they working together to get rid of me? What am I suppose to do. I am done trying because when I did, she got to close and knows just where to hit where it hurts me. So I am terrified of her and don’t want a try and be friends with someone who ends up hurting me, by manipulating all the people I love around me. What should I do?

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Miss ganna nannini
What can I do to re light the spark in my relationship?

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Mr Lewis  Owens
My friend just broke up with his girlfriend after a year of dating. I was and still am very attracted to her and she likes me too. I believe that we both want to get into a relationship with one another but we feel it would hurt my friend. I want to remain friends with him but I think I love her. What should I do?

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Does Dr John C Taylor (British inventor and clockmaker) have any children and if so, what are their ages?

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Does Dr John C Taylor (British inventor and clockmaker) have any children and if so, what are their ages?

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Mr amit r
One of your co-workers is originally from Saudi Arabia. You like him and the two of you work well together however he stands so close when you speak with him that it makes you very uncomfortable? Do you tell him of your discomfort, or do you try to cover it up?

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There's this girl who's been my friend since kindergarten. Now shes hanging with some other girls who are mean. Shes never been mean to me but barely ever talks to me. I still want to be friends. What do I do?

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Miss Sarah Turner
I'm a young, teenage girl with lots of friends and a long term (2years) boyfriend who loves me. I should be happy right? Then why do I feel so lonely? I recently screwed up my A Levels and got kicked out of College, so it will be another 2 years before I get to University. All my friends will be going in September and my boyfriend will be starting his 2nd year in September. I just feel so alone. All my friends ever talk about is Uni, which I can't really get involved in. They're also making a load of new friends, whom I don't know and they don't invite me out with them anymore. I spend my evenings sitting at home waiting for my boyfriend to call. I just feel like everyone is leaving me and that I'm a huge f*** up. I can't seem to do anything right. I couldn't actually tidy my room in time for my boyfriend to come visit today and so I wont get to see him now. It's not because it was particularly messy, just because its me, and I can't do anything right. I feel so alone and retarded right now. I'm surrounded by people, but nobody's looking at me. I just don't want to be forgotten about. Sorry, that wasn't really a question. I just needed to vent somewhere. Wow.. Just read that back. I sound whiny..

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jenna
hi guys Im 24 yrs old and when I was 17 I met my dad for the first time everything was fine until he told his wife who said he cant have any contact with me. About a year later I met his sisters and never heard anything again, recently I have found one of his sisters on facebook and am in two minds whether or not to contact her as I have children now and Ive grown up alot since my teenage years and think I could probably handle the rejection now. Do you think I should let sleeping dogs lie or contact her? if so what should I say?

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santiago1
Hi I would like some advices concerning asking a girl out how I have secretly had feeling for years. I’m very confused of what I should do next and not very good at flirting or reading women’s signals.

The situation is I have known her for 10 year we attended the same university and stayed in the same halls at the time I was shy and spotty so did not have great confidence asking girls out. I liked her a lot then but before I had I chance to pluck up the courage to ask her out she got together we a friend of mien. So from that point I decided to say nothing as I’m not the type to try and course trouble and as a person I was happy for them they were both happy. Over the years we all stayed friends but even though I was looking at different women I still had feeling for her. The more she and me got to know each other the more we had in common. About 4 year ago I went threw a bad time and became depressed and deliberately isolated myself due to being left with a colostomy and a different women I thought there might have been a future with lead me on and seemed to enjoyed rubbing her later relationship with an ex friend in my face.

The situation is I recently decided to make contact with the girl I had secretly loved for many years. 4 year had passed since I had seen her last and she is now single. I explained why I had not contacted her and other people due to being depressed and how the other girl used me. The response I got was very friendly and it seemed she had highlighted her surprise that I was not I gay. I think she thought I was. She had never asked about my sexual orientation. After the email we arranged to meet up. I decided I’d try and learn over the Internet how to flirt, as I would love to be more than just friend with her and had read that to change a friend into a lover you have to change the way you act towards her.

Yesterday I went to see her I decided I’d try and touch her arm a number of times and also to keep eye contact and smile a lot and manly to be more confident. I thought I would all be awkward but the meeting was wonderful I made physical contact many more times than I thought and did the other entire things I’d planned. She laughed pretty much all the time and eye contact was good at one point It was awkward as we both stared at each other without saying anything for a long time, It was in a restaurant I wanted to kiss her but did not know if it was in my mind, I did not want to scare her, because I thought she might leave and not want to see me again. When we both went are separate ways, while in the past it was a quick kiss on the cheek, this time it was that but I held onto her for a long time, as I suppose I did not want to see her go.

The thing is I don’t want to lose her from my life, but I cannot stand the idea of her dating a different guy as Id love to been in a relationship with her. I fear if I leave telling her how I feel to long, it’ll be too late, or if to early and it might freak hear out. My past luck with women is so poor I’m also afraid I might lose her completely. I’d be grateful for any advice of what action I should take next, as I feel the time apart give me a last chance of becoming more than just a friend.

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santiago1
Did a girl I fell in love with use me to make my friend jealous and to see if he liked her? And when they got it together why did she keep rubbing it in my face?

I would be very grateful if people could tell me what they think she was doing. Did I miss read her or was she using me? The problem is I want to move on but I’m still hurt in love with how I thought she was.

It all happened a few years ago, I had just moved to London to start a university course and was at the time recovering from major surgery, which left me with a colostomy. I was not looking fro a relationship as I was just starting to accept having a colostomy. When I started the course I met a lady how seem nice over time she started to be very tactile with me touching me and liked to sit next to me and she also laughed a lot at things I said. Slowly over time I fell in love with her, by this time she new of my medical condition. I decided to pluck up the courage to ask her out so I could tell her how I felt. I think she new I liked her as a mutual friend told me later on. She said she was having to do work on her dissertation o I thought ok, I tried this a couple of time and the same thing was said. The odd thing was if she wanted to be just friends I thought she would have gone out and told me she want to be just friends or stopped the tactile giggly behaver around me. I thought she was playing hard to get. Eventual she said yes but in the one of her voice it sounded like a plan had gone wrong, later that night accidentally her friend I was walking home drunkenly mentioned she liked my now ex friend. He asked me a while before If there was any women I liked and I said yes and told him, he said there was no one he liked. But strangely over time he started acting funny like sulking around me. I decided after hearing what the drunken friend said the best thing to do was to have no more contact with the girl I loved so I’d be able to concentrate on my course. This was fine she left me alone for awhile but then she started trying to sit next to me join in my conversation and giggling and the tactile behaviour, by this time she new I loved her and was hurt knowing how she felt about my friend. I soon realised she had started dating my friend how acted funny around me before and said he did not like anyone I think he did and she used me to make him jealous. By this time as they were together he was acting like and idiot and trying to be really friendly with me and she was acting flirty, the thing is I’d hated the fact the new I did not want to have anything to do with them but the seem to lovely telling me about the favourite places the went out like they mentioned they hand a favourite jazz bare noodle bar and had been to Venice. I want to get cross but we all share some friend so I didn’t. Strangely when she saw me at an event chatting to mystery girls she looked really pissed off then later on when I was alone on a different day looking at a gallery she accidentally was at with her boyfriend she seemed to poses no consideration to my feeling and ran up to me laughing and being tactile. Eventually I managed to get rid of her when the course finished as I left London. I would really appreciate if people could tell me what the think she was doing thank

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Ms Gaurav Sindkar
Dear sir,

Im a guy from India aged 25. I met to a girl in my brother's wedding. We both started to like each other from first sight. But we havn't express our feelings that time. In the last week we met again in a family program. When I went to send off her I gave her my phone number. And told her to call. Next day she replied me. I told her that I like her so much, then she said that yuo make too late. Im already commited with another guy in last month. But Im not sure with her. She wants me to be her good friend, Im not intresting in friendship with her. But we are in contact regularly. Now please tell me what should I do. Thanks.

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Miss Sarah Turner
I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me about a couple of months ago, but its really complicated. They didn't sleep together, but they did make out, and it was with his best (female) friend. I know she initiated it, plus she absolutely hates me, and would do anything to break us up. My boyfriend was really drunk at the time, although he realises that that is no excuse and it was him that stopped it, they're no longer friends because he told her they couldn't continue as he loved me and what they were doing was wrong. We've been together 2 years and this is the first time anything like this has happened and he seems truly sorry. He's so angry at himself. He tells me he will make it up to me, even if it takes him the rest of his life. He says I'm the love of his life. He doesn't know why he did it and he says cannot be excused. He knows he has done wrong and really wants me to forgive him. I know this sounds stupid, but this REALLY isn't the sort of thing he'd do, although obviously he did. I love him so much. I know what my head is telling me, but my heart says different. I don't know what to do. Please help me.

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Mrs Nikki jackson
Im 16 and still in school.. My boyfriend is 23 and im having issues with my mother, he has a job, car and house, and I want to move with him, should I ?

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Mr Jake Medis
Does it mean anything when the same girl will smile at you everytime she walks past you? I work with this girl that I really like and she will smile alot and sometimes we will talk. I know she has a boyfriend but, I don't understand why she will always smile. Ever since the first day she seen me she has been smiling sometimes. She gives me more attention then the other girls. So does it sound like she might be interested a little or is she just being nice? Hope to get some good answers. Thanks

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Miss Stephanie Walters
I am currently in a happy realtionship of two years....but lately I have been constantly dreaming of my ex boyfriend. Is this a sign or am I over thinking it?

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Mr silam pawar
I am male 22 from India...completed graduation in Computer Eng..

recently one of my friend proposed me. Even I gave +ve responce....but somtimes I feal like am I commited to her?.....because many times I finds excuses to talk to her.....the reason is I feel like Im playing with my big aims in life too..

I feel guilty for this...because Im not able to set up my mind on my study and relationship.....but also I dont want to lose her....

please help me....

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ydnas
We went to an event in Daytona. We stayed at my sons place. I left to go home to Jacksonville the first evening. The next day my wife called and told me that my best friend invited her to bed, because where she was sleeping was cramped. She said that she would not feel comfortable doing this and I said that it would be a bit too close for comfort. A week later after getting home she told me and the wife of my friend that the second night she was in the bed and he slipped in with her. There were other places to sleep, bro inlaw had motor home in yard, floor, etc. When she tells this she ask me well arn't you going to say something? There was no sex and no touching. She does not understand why I am upset! should I be?

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Ms Gaurav Sindkar
I am from India. Having an affair with a girl from Indonesia. I want to mary with her. How should I proceed? Please help me. Thnx

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Mr jayesh kulkarni
What should a person do when he gets hurt from a trusted one?

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Dear sir, My name is Sandip I have just 20 years completed. I had last 4 years in love in her but she is not response please tell me about matter.

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How can I forget some one?

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What is the best way to please a women?

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I am a 24 yrs old boy, I need good girl friend via Internet, in most of chatting rooms there are only cheaters, how can I get good girl?, from which web page?

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Mrs Nina singh
I am fifty and he is sixty years old. We have been married for 35 years. Our sex life was excellent until 12-13 years ago. Gradually it came to an end. He just wouldn't let me touch him or kiss him in bed. If I tried he would hold my hand and place it back on me.

Few months ago I was putting his laundry away and accidentally found his car keys all warped up in his undershirt hidden inside his underwear drawer. (He would not let any of the family members drive his car. He said he has important paperwork and other important stuff in it). I took the keys and unlocked his car and to my surprise, found whole bunch of gay magazines a bottle of lotion and a rubber penis in a bag. At that point I confronted him. His answer was "I just like to look at muscular men because I workout myself and, the rubber penis he bought to use on me so he could surprise me". Later on he told me that he disposed off all the Honcho and Torso magazines and the rubber penis too. He cried and said sorry to me for causing me all the hurt and pain.

These days he keeps his car keys in the drawer where we keep all our keys. Out of curiosity I have been peaking in his briefcase that he carries in his car all the time. He still has one "Torso" magazine that he reads regularly. I see the pages turned all the time. He lied to me again. The penis is gone. He does not know that I know about all this.

It has been three months since I confronted him. So far he has not made any move to make love to me. He tries to give me back rubs once in awhile but nothing further then that. Sometimes I tell him that I want more then a back rub, and he tells me "some other time, right now I am too tired". By now I have heard this sentence many, many times.

I haven't shared my agony with any friend or family. I don't want to embarrass him. I have asked him to go for counseling with me but he refuses. I have warned him that I am going to go by myself because I need to talk to someone about this mess. I am going crazy and he does not want that either. He thinks we have talked about it all and everything will be fine.

I don't want to lose him because besides all these issues he is a good man and is a good father for my kids. He has hurt me badly but I am still trying to be patient with him and trying to bring him back to loving me. If I ever tell him that I want a separation from him and he can go and live his life as he wants. He cries and tells me that he loves me and cannot imagine living a life without me.

Any suggestion?

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I found out that my husband is reading gay magazines. We have not had sex in last 11 years. He has lost interest in me. He claims that he loves me but does not want to make love to me. I am very lonely and worried.

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How can I fight with mental and verbal harassment?

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Is it wrong to drink alone? I drink every weekend and sometimes during the week even if I havent any friends over to drink with. I sometimes watch movies or watch TV and I love dancing and singing to music! I think it could be due to the fact that I'm bored and people are normally really busy these days.

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My wife is a rape victim. It happened about a month and a half ago. Needless to say she was upset and scared out of her mind. In the past one and a half months she as told me that it would be OK if I did not love her the same before everything happened. I keep telling her that I love her the same has I did before everything happened. She also has not told me the story about what happened to her. She said she would but she has not. She is going to counseling and a support group for rape victims. They also caught the guy who did it and he is in jail. How can I comfort her and how can I make her believe that I still love her the same? Do you think she might tell me the story about what happened to her or should I just leave the topic alone?

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How to handle criticism and objections positively?

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What is the most searched site in 2009?

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Sean, now in late teens did well at school and passed his A levels with flying colours. Now, however, he is unable to find a job, drinks a lot, exposes himself to unnecessary physical risks and does not see any point in carrying on. He recently took an overdose but called for help at the last minute. He fell in love with a girl only to find out that she was sleeping with his best friend. His parents separated when he was nine after years of rows and he has lived at quite a few different places with his mother. He doesn't feel able to talk about his feelings to either of his parents. He has an older sister, but is not close to her. How would you set about helping him see himself in a more positive light?:

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In whose memory is December 22 celebrated as 'State IT Day'?

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What does it mean to be attracted to someone past a physical state?

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When you call someone sister does that mean you are more than best friends?

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What are intimate friends and what do they do for each other?

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What does it mean when a male friend calls you his sister?

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How can someone be attracted to someone with a bad personality?

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What does it mean to be bitter because some one else is hurt?

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Please answer those question

Name: ..........................

Age: ........ (Must be between 13 and 25)

Questions: (please answer in short sentences)

1) How satisfied are Pakistanis generally with your emotional lives?

2) How much consciously about your physical appearance?

3) How happy are you with your material comfort?

4) Do you believe in a close knit (joint together) family?

5) Is money making the most important think in your life?

6) What is your altitude towards spiritual life?

7) How do you interact with your parents or family members?

8) If you have one hour to do whatever you want... what will you do?

9) Do you prefer cooking or dining out?

10) Do you believe in being alone or getting married?

11) Do you believe in love and romance?

12) What kind of a job would you like to take up in the future?

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A and B were very good friends. But B proposed to marry A which A did not accept as B is already married with a kid. After some time A got married. There area few problems in her married life. Somehow B came to know this and started proposing her to divorce her husband and get married to him. He also says that he loves his wife and child and he will never jeopardise them. But at the same time he wants to stay with A. A has very firmly told B to keep away from her and that she is not at all interested in any kind of illegal or unethical deeds. Now B is disturbing A by calling on her mobile phone every two minutes. As she does not pick up the calls, he calls her office. A holds a very responsible and respectful position in her office and hence she is highly embarrassed by such actions. Whenever A picks up B's calls, he abuses her and talks all nasty about her and her mother and her family. He uses bad languages and sends messages with abusive languages. A is very disturbed and harassed. She is suffering from a bad marriage and a lot of problems in her life and hence A does not want any extra harassment. What should A do ?

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What is the psychological term that describes the act of responding to the assumed message?

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Hi I have been having a long distance relationship for 4 half years now. But he lives 100 miles away and we only see each other when we can at weekends. Now my son is more involved in football as he is 8 years old and lives with me. I am the only one that has to take him to the matches on Sundays as he does not see his bio father not for 8 years now. I have to do everything and I want to cos he is important to me. My boyfriend seems to think I am doing too much for my son. And he only comes down to see us when he wants to, last weekend was valentine and he didn't come and I was disappointed. My friends say I should dump him. He is becoming more selfish cos he has a huge hobby of photography and spends alot of his time on that now his children have grown up. I don't know what I should do. I love him but starting to resent him more lately. Linda

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I have come back to my husband after staying apart for three months. I went away to my father’s place since he had cheated on me. He had contacted his first wife and given away his child to her as she is the biological mother. Formerly, this lady had left him and her son and fled for another man. Now she is back with all her shrewd activities. My husband started seeing this woman and had given the excuse that it was only his son’s welfare that he is worried about. As I felt very low and was hurt deeply by his behavior, I went to stay with my father. But I found that after staying there for 3 months though I am suffering from tremendous pain of separation, my husband requests me to come back to him. I thought of giving it a try and giving him a chance as I love him very much. But I came to know somehow, now, that he had spent several nights with this lady while I was not around. On the Valentines’ Day this lady has sent me a message wishing a Happy valentines to both of us. I sense that there is something between them. It is no point asking my husband as, if there is still something, he will definitely not tell me that. I am at a loss as my husband is sometimes very very cold and sometimes he is OK in his behaviour. But it seems that he is trying to conceal facts from me. Please help.

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I am a working woman of 34 from India. I am married for last 3 years. The man I am married to has a kid who is now 12 years of age. Since our marriage, the kid and I were very close and he was just like my own son and hence I had decided not to conceive so that I could bring up the child as my own son and my total attention is towards him. But anyhow, my husband has been always passing loose comments about various petty things like my appearance, my father’s family, his being more superior than everyone etc. This has been going on since our marriage. But I took all these very lightly and jokingly as he always apologized after that. But of late since last 8 / 10 months, I have been cheated. Firstly, he had a short term affair with a girl which I came to know and then he apologized for that. I somehow had forgiven him and continued with the marriage. Again he contacted his first wife and since 6 months he gave away the child to her and she being the child’s own mother had the right too towards the child. The child initially did not want to go but now everything is quite fine and the child stays with his mother. My husband got involved with his first wife and they had been going to places and seeing each other. But again my husband has realized his mistake and stopped such nefarious activities. In the mean time, I had to seek refuge at my father’s place since my husband had become very vindictive and tortured me severely both mentally and sometime physically too. Now he wants me to be back to him and stay with him. Since I love him very much, I thought of again forgiving him for all and start afresh. But still he continues with his loose comments. He is very inconsistent and once he is very much loving and the other time he speaks all abusive things. He has a complex over my sister’s fiancée who is a doctor and always speaks bad about him. He thinks that he is not valued but my father always speaks to him very nicely, invites him, pampers him. My husband not only behaves such inconsistently with me but with everyone. I am really at a loss. Since my mother expired, my father is unwell, I remain tensed about my father’s health. With my work pressure and the my devastated life, I am now at the edge of my life. My blood pressure has gone up very much and I can understand that my health is severely affected. I love my husband and hence whenever I think of very firmly taking a decision to get separated, I feel too much pain. Again I am unable to go and stay with him due to his such behavior. He calls me and sends me sms and I remember of all good times with him and feel like suicidal. What to do? Please help me. I want to live my life.

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My husband is 37 and works as a Proejct Head with a very reputed Telecom Company in Eastern India. I am married to him since 3 years and have since then noticed a constant inconsistency in him. He is a very nice, kind hearted and cheerful person sometimes but suddenly he turns to be very very cold. He is very short tempered and turns violent and breaks and throws things when he is angry. His personality changes completely. His eyes remain still and very coldly he utters very harsh things. Suppose he tells me very nice things and suddenly without any reason after a few hours he speaks completely the opposite. Suppose we fight on some issues and he apologises as he realizes his mistake but suddenly after sometime he tells that I am to be accused for all and utters abusive languages. This inconsistency in him has now been admitted by his parents that he was always like this. I had spoken to him very nicely and asked him to attend for a counsellor with me and even I said that I need counselling so that he takes me and it could also help for his counselling. But he never agrees to go. He also suffers from some superiority complex and can never tolerate if anyone around him achieves something greater than what he has. This mental state of his has had very bad consequences on many things both domestically and officially. Please help me and let me know if this is a mental problem. What should I do ?

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